UPDATE: Entitled SIL tells woman she doesn't ‘deserve’ to claim part-ownership over her and her husband's new home due to her lower earnings, parents-in-law reveal their daughter wanted to cash in on her brother's life insurance policy

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 12, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

If you haven't read the first part of the story, you can read that here.

Being told that you are lesser in your relationship because of finances is never a nice thing to hear—it's like the only thing people actually respect anymore is money. When everything crashes and burns, you're only left with your character. If folks understood that, they'd probably be a bit nicer to those around them—but that's just a hunch that I have.

If you've heard the first part of this story, you'd know that a woman's sister-in-law suggested that the woman doesn't "deserve" to claim ownership over the home she and her husband purchased together. Her SIL said this because her brother made a larger financial contribution when buying the home, but a partnership usually means part-ownership, too. Well, it's come to light that this SIL wasn't playing nice because she thought she'd be part owner of the home along with being her brother's life insurance beneficiary, despite him having a wife now. Scroll below to read the full messy story.

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  • "Update-SIL expressed I don't ‘deserve’ our new house. Now husband's family is melting down"

    Holy sh, y'all I was not expecting that much feedback. BUT I'm super grateful, it was really affirming and validating to read a lot of those comments,
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  • and a bit humbling, too. This recent move did move us a little bit out of town so I'm still close to my social circle, but didn't immediately have someone to vent to and you all were really helpful in that way.
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  • To update... she was secretly planning his m der to get the life insurance money! No not really.
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  • After talking a bunch with both my husband and his parents we figured out a few things. He didn't tell her that he's replaced her as the beneficiary on everything because he assumed
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  • she would know that. So she had texted him during the home purchase "hey do you need my signature on anything for this new house?" He had messaged her back "no???" She then
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  • essentially asked if the house was an asset "set up like his life insurance." And he'd told her that everything is set up fine and that I'm on all of paperwork and she's
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  • responded "ok! :)" so I do think part of this is her truly not knowing how marriage is suppose to work and she seems to have expected there wouldn't be any change.
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  • I found out she also mentioned this with their parents, her main concern being that if "something happened" to my husband, I wouldn't help her son like we've
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  • been doing as a couple. MIL and FIL say they told her not to worry and that I love our nephew, but that was what was going on behind the scenes before all this.
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  • MIL and FIL also admitted that they may have unintentionally encouraged this, because they've always really encouraged their kids to support each other- but
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  • due to the various dynamics at play what that ends up being is pressure on my husband and a sort of "your brother will always be there for you" message to his
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  • sister. This was particularly strong in the last few years. before I met and married him because his parents thought he was planning to be a lifelong
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  • bachelor (they're not wrong in this- he definitely had that mindset at a time) and so then he and his sister really were, in their eyes, each other's lifelong. person. So the last few years there had been this level of fallout I wasnt even aware of due to that.
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  • I also learned SIL is in a not great financial situation, and due to past issues the whole family essentially refuses to give her cash but will do things like buy groceries or pay a phone bill. So she's been struggling and I think feeling a little desperate and jealous.
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  • Oh course none of this is an excuse and I'm not speaking to her until I get an apology. My husband has also said he needs at least a week or two before he
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  • speaks to her, but he does plan to. His parents are totally in agreement and understand, they are going to tell her that we talked about the dynamics at play
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  • and that she needs to acknowledge what is going on here and take accountability for her part in it- so hopefully that will Kickstart things in the right direction.
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  • Being "too understanding" and "too flexible" has been a difficulty for me for a long time. Having feedback about how truly f ed up that situation was was
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  • really helpful for me, so thank you! For me there's a fine line between being unbothered and being a doormat, and I'm definitely working on differentiating those two.
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  • Dry_Ask5493 It sounds to me that she is mad you are getting her payout. She thought she was getting everything of his until you came. Very entitled.
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  • Silvermorney So it's not that they are both supposed to be there for each other it's just that he's constantly supposed to be there for her? Either way stand your ground and good luck op. UpdateMe!
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  • Ketzer_Jefe She sounds like a leech. And I bet she structured her life so that her brother would always be there for her. And now that he's married, she's ed that her cut of the pie 0 is gone.
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